"Anger is too strong an emotion for my frail constitution."

I think I have uttered those words somewhere in the past. As time mellows us all, we consider anger a thing of a distant past. But strong emotions still plague us, only under the guise of reasons and excuses through justification and rationalization.

Raw emotions and desires like jealousy, grief and vengefulness are still very much present in many of our lives. And on a relative level, their destructive powers make anger seems like the domain of the children and the impotent. Their hold can come close to absolute and their reach all encompassing.

Vengefulness often take the form of self righteousness. Jealousy often take the form of egoistical, paternalistic actions. And people who are most susceptible to them are the ones with the most "reasons" to do the things they do, to hurt the people they hurt and to destroy the things they destroy.

We grow out of anger, but not always out of jealousy.

We often have the desire to act, then find reasons to do so before we do, but fail to understand that we often do not have morally justifiable reasons that can stand up to scrutiny for feeling the way we do.

Find not the reasons to act.

Find the reasons why we feel how we feel.

Honesty to oneself, first and foremost.